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all inner city kids need is a nice white lady

October 31, 2009 curlykidz 2 comments

I know I said I wasn’t going to post anymore stand alone videos as a blog entry, but I just had to throw this one up last night when previews of The Blind Side were getting on my nerves. The Nice White Lady Movies are getting a little old for me. I knew better than to start an actual rant at 1AM, and I thought I’d saved this as a draft but I guess not!

H/T to {RAGE against the MINIVAN} for the video.. I remembered seeing it a few days ago and of course I think of it every time the preview comes on. So I went to hunt it down and saw Kristen had since written about the movie from a transracial adoption perspective in the feel-good adoption movie I don’t want to see

The first thing I noticed when I watched the preview was that, with the exception of the main character, every black person in the movie is bad, and every white person in the movie is good. We see a female black relative who appears to be an addict, several thugs who threaten the mom, and even a sassy black social worker who further plays into stereotypes. Then, on the Great White Hope side, we see sacrificial parents, concerned friends, loving coaches, and encouraging tutors. The subtle message: if we can just get some of these kids away from BLACK PEOPLE, then they might have a chance.

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Walking the (color)Line

October 26, 2009 curlykidz 3 comments

WARNING – Racial Smog Ahead

Proceed with caution. If you have a low tolerance for white guilt (stage whisper: that’s code for, if you’re black) or tend to have defensive reactions during conversations about white privilege (stage whisper: that’s code for, if you’re white), I recommend some form of psychiatric medication or perhaps even the liberal use of recreational drugs before proceeding.

Know your limits. Step out of the sweat lodge as frequently as necessary. Read more…

Unitarian Universalist code word for racist: “Racially Challenged”

October 24, 2009 curlykidz 3 comments

I know I am supposed to be blogging about my personal stuff that I’ve been avoiding. But last night I read Vessel: The Gordon Sisters did not have ‘a complicated past’. They were racist. I just can’t let it go. I think I could fill a Bingo Card from this article.

“I won’t say, ‘They were racists!’ ” said the Rev. Melanie Morel-Ensminger, waving her arms in mock alarm.

  1. I’m pretty sure that waving your arms in mock alarm qualifies as using air quotes, which is generally offensive in any discussion about race.
  2. Racism 101: The “I’m (or in this case, they’re) not racist… BUT” disclaimer is just code for “I’m about to say something racist.”

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What about the children?

October 19, 2009 curlykidz 11 comments

Think About the Children

When Bardwell said interracial children “suffer” and are not accepted by blacks or whites, he was simply looking out for the couple’s best interest, Steve Benen sarcastically assures his readers at The Washington Monthly. “What a good point. The societal stigma on kids from mixed-race couples is so overwhelming, those kids would never have an opportunity to, say, grow up and someday seek the presidency of the United States.”

The Debate

So unless you’ve been under a rock (or at least, if you haven’t read my blog this week, which is really the same thing, right?), you know that a Justice of the Peace refused to issue a marriage license to an interracial couple. A lot of people are expressing shock and awe… I’ve seen several comments to the effect, “this is 2009, not 1967.”

Ummm… peeps… I hate to point out the obvious, but Loving vs. Virginia didn’t make us any more post-racial than the 2008 elections. You may not have caught it, but in an article I posted last week, Gallup surveys were cited that indicate only 48 percent of Americans approved of marriage between blacks and whites in 1994, up 77 percent by 2007.

It’s 2009. 1994 was only 15 years ago. My oldest was born in 1996. Read more…

To support gay rights, Norfolk ministers take a stand at altar

October 16, 2009 curlykidz 2 comments

The newly arrived ministers at Unitarian Church of Norfolk are happy to officiate over the ceremonies where couples say, “I do.”

But when it comes to signing marriage licenses, the Revs. Phyllis L. Hubbell and John P. Manwell say, “We don’t.”

Manwell and Hubbell support gay marriage, but in Virginia, only heterosexual couples can get a marriage license validating their legal status as spouses. That meant Manwell and Hubbell were able to sign licenses for some couples but not others. So they chose to sign none.

The protest, they said, is worth the inconvenience it will impose on heterosexuals they wed.

Those heterosexual couples will have to, in essence, get married a second time, most likely by a judge or civil official who can sign the license.

“For me, it’s a matter of conscience,” said Hubbell, the daughter and granddaughter of clergy. Read more…

WTF are you thinking, crackhead?

October 15, 2009 curlykidz 4 comments

Somebody pass him some mood altering drugs.

This should answer any questions as to why Cyndi has a moderate automatic preference for black people compared to white people.

I am the Glue: Interracial couple denied marriage license in La.

October 15, 2009 rnljs 4 comments

I am the GlueReally?

Here’s the news story from the AP->

Interracial couple denied marriage license in LA

If I wasn’t upset about another ‘crazies being flushed out from the dark corners’ and I have completely run out of my silver bullets or Anti-Zombie sprinkles, I’d just think this was silly. No, I am not surprised it was a Louisiana Justice of the Peace. I lived down south for several years. I remember being told that the JP in Lamar County, Mississippi wouldn’t marry an interracial couple. I don’t think he had such nobel intentions.

For the sake of the children?

Bwahahahaha!

Trust me, my offspring are suffering a lot less than your children are.

Thanks for your concern though.

Why don’t we have a nationwide Interracial Family organization? We could have conventions, with t-shirts and key chains. We could do are first official protest in Louisiana.

Kat, we are all staying at your house. K?

 

 

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Hieroglyphics Revisted

October 15, 2009 curlykidz Leave a comment
Addy’s Family Album Quilt

Addy’s Family Album Quilt

So I’ve been busily transferring archives from various other locations, and came across something I posted in October of 2003. It’s an email that I sent to American Girl regarding an accessory being sold with the Addy doll. I don’t remember what, if any, response I got at the time. I’m happy to see that Addy now has accessories that are more authentic to her story, and that there was no sign of a hieroglyphic mother goose book.

I am writing to inquire why (not to mention how) an black slave in the 1800’s would have a Mother Goose book written in hieroglyphics? Hieroglyphics is most commonly used in reference to the writing of the Ancient Egyptians, and were used predominantly from 3000 to 1300 BC. The use of hieroglyphics died out AD 394, and remained ‘lost’ until about 1799. Researchers barely began deciphering hieroglyphics during the 1820’s (in France), and they are still not fully translated. Furthermore, Egypt is on the East Coast of the African continent. Black slaves brought to the Americas came almost exclusively from the West Coast or West Central area of the African continent – predominantly from the territories we now know as Ghana, Togo, Benin, and Nigeria. Given this information, I fail to see the significance that hieroglyphics would have for a Black American slave of any time period, or how an enslaved child would obtain such a book. If a slave knew how to read at all, it was generally in the English, French, or German languages, because our knowledge about hieroglyphics was not developed enough at that time for the common ‘free white man’ to be able to read hieroglyphics, much less a woman, child, or slave. Who would have taught her to read such a book? At that time, the ability of read hieroglyphics was pretty exclusive to Etymologists, and most of the research on Hieroglyphics during the time of Black American Slavery took place in Europe, not anywhere in the US that a child would have picked up on it.

see the complete original at Hieroglyphics?.

Project Implicit® – subconcious reflections on race

October 9, 2009 curlykidz 1 comment

So I just took two Harvard Implicit Associations Tests.

It is well known that people don’t always ’speak their minds’, and it is suspected that people don’t always ‘know their minds’. Understanding such divergences is important to scientific psychology.

This web site presents a method that demonstrates the conscious-unconscious divergences much more convincingly than has been possible with previous methods. This new method is called the Implicit Association Test, or IAT for short.

Skin-tone (‘Light Skin – Dark Skin’ IAT). This IAT requires the ability to recognize light and dark-skinned faces. It often reveals an automatic preference for light-skin relative to dark-skin.
Race (‘Black – White’ IAT). This IAT requires the ability to distinguish faces of European and African origin. It indicates that most Americans have an automatic preference for white over black.

 I doubt my first result will surprise anyone who knows me.

Your data suggest little to no automatic preference between Dark Skin and Light Skin.

I’ll be blogging more about my second result.

Your data suggest a moderate automatic preference for African American compared to European American.

 Project Implicit® – Select a Test.

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Prejudice and you

September 23, 2009 rnljs 1 comment

PhotobucketFrom Wikipedia-
A prejudice is a preconceived belief, opinion or judgment especially toward a group of people characterized by their race, social class, gender, ethnicity, sexual orientation, age or religion. Also, it means a priori beliefs (without knowledge of the facts) and includes “any unreasonable attitude that is unusually resistant to rational influence.”[1] Although positive and negative prejudice both exist, when used negatively, “prejudice” implies fear and antipathy toward such a group.

For several years now, I have been getting into conversations more and more about how people respond to prejudice behavior. As a mother with an interracial family, I have talked with other parents with similar families across this country about their experiences and their attitudes. With the topics of race and gay marriage again and again being in the headlines for quite some time now, everyone is joining in.

I think that several things affect your view about how to deal with people who say ignorant, ugly things about groups of people. As individuals we are certainly shaped by the attitudes of our family and community. Negative situations fuel fear, anger and impatience. But a person’s basic attitude in life changes their perception of what other’s people’s intentions are, how to respond, and how effective you are at making an impact on the person who said or did something prejudice. Read more…

Take the 2009 Anti-Racist Parent Survey

August 20, 2009 curlykidz 3 comments

Take the 2009 Anti-Racist Parent Survey

We want this Web site to be the premier resource online for anti-racist parents. And we need your help. Please take a moment to complete a brief survey that will help us uncover the issues that are of most value to you. We will share highlights of the survey results next month.

via Take the 2009 Anti-Racist Parent Survey at Anti-Racist Parent – for parents committed to raising children with an anti-racist outlook.

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from one white girl to another…

OK, so I was on a friend’s profile, and from there went to the profile of a friend of hers. Friend surfing, is that what it’s called? Anyway, on the chick’s profile was this little tag…

And what really set me off, aside from the obvious, is that this girl’s profile indicates she is from…

Phoenix. Read more…

The objectification of multiracial youth

September 22, 2006 curlykidz 5 comments

 
 
my kids are people not pets

my kids are people not pets

One of the things that disturbs me about the infamous “What are they?” questions from complete strangers, or the “Oh, just look at hair hair!” exclamations, where people are not complimenting “her” so much as they are talking about her like she’s not there or can’t hear them, is not that I think the people who initiate this kind of dialogue are ill intentioned… it’s the objectification and the sense of “otherness” that comes with it. Even though the oohing and aahing is intended to be a compliment, and maybe for the parents it is… it’s an affirmation that we are accepted… a soothing balm for those of us in multiracial relationships who have experience rejection in some fashion… perhaps just from thoughtless comments made by strangers, and in some cases, rejection by friends or family members.  I know people who have been the recipients of outright hostile stares to people who have been disowned from their families. 

We anxiously anticipate the day our children will be subject to racism and prejudice, and at first this fawning seems like a sign that all is right with the world, that times have changed for the better, and the world will love our children as much as we do. Speaking from my racial perspective, which of course won’t apply to every white mother of biracial children… I experienced a loss of some of that white privilege when I started dating interracially.  It was immediate and pronounced… so I can see how it might be tempting, after experiencing that loss and rejection, to want to bask in that acceptance.

But from the perspectives of our children, what is it like for them to be asked or to overhear their parents being asked (with whatever frequency) to justify their existence?  Read more…

What ARE they? (Follow Up)

September 18, 2006 curlykidz Leave a comment

So Christie asked if I’d come up with any good responses to the infamous “What are they?” question, or ways to handle the zooing/petting. No pressures, she says.

When the kids (and I) were younger, I rarely hesitated to respond with a snappy comeback or snide response. Where’d my 2yo get his curly hair? I permed it. Is she yours? No, I just thought she was cute so I snatched her from a cart outside.

But as the kids are growing up, so am I. As tempting as it is to fight fire with fire (a dumb (or rude) question deserves a dumb (or rude) answer)… something about it just doesn’t quite sit right with me. Read more…

WHITE PRIVILEGE SHAPES THE U.S « COMMENTS TO HIS PAPER

July 4, 2006 curlykidz Leave a comment

By writing about the politics of white privilege–and listening to the folks who responded to that writing–I have had to face one more way that privilege runs deep in my life, and it makes me uncomfortable.

 

The discomfort tells me I might be on the right track.

 

Last year I published an article about white privilege in the Baltimore Sun that then went out over a wire service to other newspapers. Electronic copies proliferated and were picked up on Internet discussion lists, and the article took on a life of its own (the essay is available online at http://uts.cc.utexas.edu/~rjensen/freelance/whiteprivilege.htm )

 

As a result, every week over the past year I have received at least a dozen letters from people who want to talk about race. I learned not only more about my own privilege, but more about why many white folks cant come to terms with the truism I offered in that article: White people, whether overtly racist or not, benefit from living in a world mostly run by white people that has been built on the land and the backs of non-white people.

 

The reactions varied from racist rantings, to deeply felt expressions of pain and anger, to declarations of solidarity. But probably the most important response I got was from non-white folks, predominantly African-Americans, who said something like this: “Of course there is white privilege. I’ve been pointing it out to my white friends and co-workers for

years. Isn’t funny that almost no one listens to me, but everyone takes notice when a white guy says it.”

 

Those comments forced me again to ponder the privilege I live with. Who really does know more about white privilege, me or the people on the other side of that privilege? Me, or a black inner-city teenager who is automatically labeled a gang member and feared by many white folks? Me, or an American Indian on the streets of a U.S. city who is invisible to many white folks? Whose voices should we be paying attention to?

 

My voice gets heard in large part because I am a white man with a Ph.D. who holds a professional job with status. In most settings, I speak with the assumption that people not only will listen, but will take me seriously. I speak with the assumption that my motives will not be challenged; I can rely on the perception of me as a neutral authority, someone whose observations can be trusted.

 

Every time I open my mouth, I draw on, and in some ways reinforce, my privilege, which is in large part tied to race. Right now, I want to use that privilege to acknowledge the many non-white people who took the time to tell me about the enduring realities of racism in the United States.

 

And, I want to talk to the white people who I think misread my essay and misunderstand what’s at stake. The responses of my white critics broke down into a few basic categories, around the following claims:

 

1. White privilege doesn’t exist because affirmative action has made being white a disadvantage.

 

“« The simple response: Extremely limited attempts to combat racism, such as affirmative action, do virtually nothing to erase the white privilege built over 500 years that pervades our society. As a friend of mine says, the only real disadvantage to being white is that it so often prevents people from understanding racial issues.

 

2. White privilege exists, but it can’t be changed because it is natural for any group to favor its own, and besides, the worst manifestations of racism are over.”

 

« Response: This approach makes human choices appear outside of human control, which is a dodge to avoid moral and political responsibility for the injustice we continue to live with.

 

3. White privilege exists, and that’s generally been a good thing because white Europeans have civilized the world. Along the way some bad things may have happened, and we should take care to be nice to non-whites to make up for that.”

 

« Response: These folks often argued the curiously contradictory position that (1) non-whites and their cultures are not inferior, but (2) white/European culture is superior. As for the civilizing effect of Europe, we might consider five centuries of inhuman, brutal colonialism and World Wars I and II, and then ask what “civilized” means.

 

4. White privilege exists because whites are inherently superior, and I am a weakling and a traitor for suggesting otherwise.”

 

« Response: The Klan isnt dead.

 

There is much to say beyond those short responses, but for now I am more interested in one common assumption that all these correspondents made, that my comments on race and affirmative action were motivated by “white liberal guilt.” The problem is, they got two out of the three terms wrong. I am white, but I’m not a liberal. In political terms, I’m a radical; I dont think liberalism offers real solutions because it doesnt attack the systems of power and structures of illegitimate authority that are the root cause of oppression, be it based on race, gender, sexuality, or class. These systems of oppression, which are enmeshed and interlocking, require radical solutions.

 

And I don’t feel guilty. Guilt is appropriate when one has wronged another, when one has something to feel guilty about. In my life I have felt guilty for racist or sexist things I have said or done, even when they were done unconsciously. But that is guilt I felt because of specific acts, not for the color of my skin. Also, focusing on individual guilt feelings is counterproductive when it leads us to ponder the issue from a psychological point of view instead of a moral and political one.

 

So, I cannot, and indeed should not, feel either guilty or proud about being white, because it is a state of being I have no control over. However, as a member of a society–and especially as a privileged member of society–I have an obligation not simply to enjoy that privilege that comes with being white but to study and understand it, and work toward a more just world in which such unearned privilege is eliminated.

 

Some of my critics said that such a goal is ridiculous; after all, people have unearned privileges of all kinds. Several people pointed out that, for example, tall people have unearned privilege in basketball, and we don’t ask tall people to stop playing basketball nor do we eliminate their advantage.

 

The obvious difference is that racial categories are invented; they carry privilege or disadvantage only because people with power create and maintain the privilege for themselves at the expense of others. The privilege is rooted in violence and is maintained through that violence as well as more subtle means.

 

I can’t change the world so that everyone is the same height, so that everyone has the same shot at being a pro basketball player. In fact, I wouldn’t want to; it would be a drab and boring world if we could erase individual differences like that. But I can work with others to change the world to erase the effects of differences that have been created by one group to keep others down.

 

Not everyone who wrote to me understood this. In fact, the most creative piece of mail I received in response to the essay also was the most confused. In a padded envelope from Clement, Minn., came a brand-new can of Kiwi Shoe Polish, black. Because there was no note or letter, I have to guess at my correspondent’s message, but I assume the person was suggesting that if I felt so bad about being white, I might want to make myself black.

 

But, of course, I don’t feel bad about being white. The only motivation I might have to want to be black –to be something I am not — would be pathological guilt over my privilege. In these matters, guilt is a cowards way out, an attempt to avoid the moral and political questions. As I made clear in the original essay, there is no way to give up the privilege; the society we live in confers it upon us, no matter what we want.

 

So, I don’t feel guilty about being white in a white supremacist society, but I feel an especially strong moral obligation to engage in collective political activity to try to change the society because I benefit from the injustice. I try to be reflective and accountable, though I am human and I make mistakes. I think a lot about how I may be expressing racism unconsciously, but I don’t lay awake at night feeling guilty. Guilt is not a particularly productive emotion, and I don’t wallow in it.

 

What matters is what we decide to do with the privilege. For me, that means speaking, knowing that I speak with a certain unearned privilege that gives me advantages I cannot justify. It also means learning to listen before I speak, and realizing that I am probably not as smart as I sometimes like to think I am.

 

It means listening when an elderly black man who sees the original article tacked up on the bulletin board outside my office while on a campus tour stops to chat. This man, who has lived with more kinds of racism than I can imagine through more decades than I have been alive, says to me, “White privilege, yes, good to keep an eye on that, son. Keep yourself honest. But don’t forget to pay attention to the folks who live without the privilege.”

 

It doesn’t take black shoe polish to pay attention. It takes only a bit of empathy to listen, and a bit of courage to act.

 

Jensen is a professor in the Department of Journalism in the University of Texas at Austin.

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